Tips4Dates

When you go out on a date, be honest and upfront about who you are, what you stand for and what you’re looking for. This helps to avoid any misconceptions in the future and allows for greater success in the overall scheme of things. When you’re letting someone else get to know you, make sure that you present yourself genuinely; otherwise, they’ll see right through you.

While you may be nervous and may embark in some of your more embarrassing habits, it’s natural to feel so and it’s likely the other person feels the same. Don’t worry about those nervous habits – be yourself and everything else will fall into place. By the second date, things will be much easier. Your date will probably have a general idea of who you are, and they’ll continue to learn more after each subsequent date or meeting. This growing experience helps shape a connection for a potential relationship.

When meeting someone for the first time, make sure that you’re upfront and real. Nothing’s worse than discovering that someone you’ve developed feelings for presented themselves as someone they’re not. Whether it was intentional or not, doing so can hinder the success of a future relationship and may ruin a good thing. Staying true to your beliefs and who you are is a valid lesson to learn in relationships. This is the real deal – it’s not elementary school where you’ll hold hands on the playground and bring each other cupcakes. This could potentially lead to marriage, children, and lifetime of love – so take it seriously.

The first impression can have a lasting effect. It can potentially shape one’s love for a person, or it may make them realize things about you that will have them running in the opposite direction. Whatever message these impressions give off, they will help both individuals discover love, or lack thereof, in a situation.
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Many people spend a lot of time preparing for a date. They take their time choosing where to go, what to wear, they even rehearse the topics of conversation for the evening, yet they often neglect to pay attention to the details concerning how they will end the date.

It’s easy to end a date that has gone sour. In fact, it seems that when on a bad date, all you can do is think of innovative and witty ways to end it. Emergency phone calls arise, sudden illness sets in, and one can quickly come up with a number of get away plans. Amazingly, books have been written on, “Bad Date Escapes”, yet the subject is often overlooked when one actually enjoys themselves on their date and wants to leave in a courteous manner.

The first issue to consider is that if you enjoyed yourself and would like to have a second date, then you will need to end the date in a manner that will allow you to make easy contact. Make sure that you exchange phone numbers and have an open doorway for more communication. If you set up a time to call each other, you can prevent any discomfort regarding making the second phone call.

Also, some people find it is an uncomfortable situation, determining who will pay for the majority of the date. If you really want to make an impression, then you can plan to pay for the date in its entirety. However, if you aren’t prepared for paying every time, then you may want to discuss this beforehand. Taking care of this issue from the beginning can prevent your date from ending in an unpleasant manner. Many women still find it very flattering, for the man to pay for everything.

If you went out to a restaurant or another social event, then you should ensure that your date arrives home safely. It is a sign of a true gentleman to wait until a woman is safely inside her residence, before heading home. Also, forget what you’ve seen in the movies. Trying to get inside of her apartment after the first date isn’t a good idea. If you want to give your relationship a chance of succeeding, then move slowly and with respect. Treat her like a lady and give her the respect you would expect someone to give your sister.

Finally, don’t feel that you have to end every date with public displays of affection. It is very important to make sure that your date is comfortable with any physical activity. This is the most important area of your date, and is critical to ensuring that your next date will occur. It is always better to err on the side of caution, rather than make your date feel uncomfortable with too much aggressiveness. Typically, you can read the cues from your date and judge the level of physical activity they are prepared for. However, sometimes you may receive mixed signals. In this case, it is much better to politely and quietly end the date in a courteous manner and wait until you are sure that she is ready to take the relationship to a more physical level.
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Ever been in a relationship where, even though the physical side of things was great (hey, even mind-blowing), you just didn’t click with your partner on a non-physical level? Of course you have – we all have (haven’t we?). This is the kind of relationship that results from letting a physical attraction take its course…and ignoring the fact that there’s no real connection. And, hey, it’s a lot of fun. Even if it’s temporary.

But the truth is, these sorts of relationships are sort of a fluke. Because for most women (unless they’re just looking for sex, in which case…congratulations), we require more than just a physical attraction to agree to even go out on a date. What are we looking for? Why, an emotional connection, of course. I can’t imagine you’re too surprised to hear it.

Attraction

Attraction happens pretty fast. You know how it works: you feel it after the merest glance or the smallest smile or softest brush of the arm. Contact is made in a split second, then broken shyly, then reestablished. You can’t help glancing over there, and every time you do, you meet – her eyes; she’s attracted to you, too. Then it’s up to somebody – generally you, but not always – to make the move.

And now that the easy, eyes-only part is over, things get a little more complicated. When you’re strongly attracted to somebody, it can make conversation difficult – you might stumble over your words or appear awkward. For guys especially, that first physical flash of attraction can be a little disconcerting. Which, of course, makes it more difficult to establish that all-important connection (which requires talking!).

Connection

Sorry if this sounds superior, guys, but we women have a bit more control over our physical impulses than you do. So we generally need to feel a real connection with a guy in order to agree to go out with him (unless, of course, the guy is really super hot – unfortunate but true). But establishing a connection is hard for just about everybody…especially if you’re heart is in your throat because you’re so attracted to her.

Connecting with a woman is about finding a common ground. Finding something that you both can relate to, and that actually means something to you both. Here’s an example:

You: So, what do you do?

Hot Girl: I’m an architect.

You: *laughing* I wanted to be an architect when I was a kid! Is it as interesting as it looks?

See the connection there? You connected to something she said, establishing a common ground and opening up the conversation – and you kept the conversation focused on her, which is something girls love. Nifty, right?

But if the conversation doesn’t lead you in a direction where you can establish a connection this way (and you’ve got to be fast, or she’ll lose interest), you can do it on your own by relating something you know, feel, or have, with something you can see about her. “I see you have big boobs. I’m crazy about big boobs,” won’t cut it (duh!). Instead, try to comment on something personal but not physical. “Hey, I like the David Bowie button on your purse…When I a kid, I was obsessed with Space Oddity – I even had silver pants.”

Most of all, just be interested in her. If you talk to her and (most of all) keep her talking, you’ll appeal to her in more than just a physical way – and get the stage set for asking her out…and having her say yes.
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None of us like it when we’re not listened to…in fact, it pisses us off. Even if what you’re trying to say isn’t of urgent importance (or any real importance at all), when somebody doesn’t listen to you, they’re telling you that they don’t care about what you have to say. They’re telling you, basically, that they don’t respect you. And it probably makes you want to hit the non-listener over the head with a heavy skillet. Maybe one full of messy, half-scrambled eggs.

Ah, but aren’t you a hypocrite? You hate when others don’t listen to you, but…do you always listen fully to others? Unless you’re some kind of saint (or a mute), you probably don’t. And how about the way you feel when you know that others are not listening to you? Well, your date feels that way, too. Want to avoid filling your date with the desire to concuss you with a skillet? Start by:

1. Really listening. Yep, learn to listen by…listening. Stop thinking about being a good listener or making a good impression or how much that rash on your left butt cheek itches, and just…listen. This means teaching yourself to ignore any distractions and focus fully on the person speaking. Is the couple at the table next to yours having an entertaining fight at dinner? You’ve got to learn to block it out, clear your mind, and really listen.

2. Looking like you’re listening. Now, I’m not talking about pretending you’re listening. Instead, I’m saying that appearing to listen will not only tell your date that you’re connecting with what they are saying…it will also help you to actually connect. So especially if you’re not naturally a good listener, sit facing your date and make eye contact. You’ll probably find that, if you look like you’re focused on your date, you will be.

3. Opening your mind. Sure, you might not be into art and paintings. But if it’s something your date wants to talk about, the best thing you can do is open your mind and try not to dismiss it as a boring topic. Opening yourself up to new topics can do more than make you a good listener – it can also be very rewarding.

Look at it this way: sure, you’re not into museums and don’t get excited about paintings. But when your date is talking about why a particular painting was so emotionally moving, he or she will be telling you a lot more than the name of a favorite artist. They’ll also be telling you about the way they look at the world. No matter what they’re talking about, your date is often telling you something bigger the topic seems to contain. Learn to pay attention.

4. Learning not to pass judgment. We all have opinions and ideas, and we know how we feel about things. So when we hear another person talk, all of those prejudices and judgments come into play. “That idea is stupid.” “Well, she’s just wrong about that.” “That’s certainly not how I was raised!”

Part of being a good listener is training yourself not to think those things. Instead, just listen to what your date has to say, and absorb it. Let it trickle right in without passing it through the filter of your (sometimes rather vicious) judgment. This not only shows the person you’re with that you can accept others’ ideas, it also allows you to look beyond your prejudices and see your date for who he or she really is.
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I cannot tell you how many times I’ve been on a date with one guy or another, and within minutes they’ve managed to creep me out and/or ruin their chances of a second date. How? Well, my friends, there are certain dating faux pas that you absolutely must avoid… especially if it’s a first date.

One evening, a nice man I’d met at a coffee place earlier that day had invited me out to dinner. He was charming, sweet and very respectful – in an age where chivalry seems dead, he was the quintessential “knight in shining armor,” so to speak.

I had high hopes for the night, but about halfway through the meal this man had to completely ruin it. Every time a blonde woman would walk by, he had to make a reference about how his ex-girlfriend dyed her hair blonde. After that, it was incessant chatter about his ex. Even when I would try to change the subject, we would invariably end up back at square one.

Even though his comments about his ex-girlfriend were nasty, he made the ultimate dating blunder – you never, I repeat NEVER talk about an ex when you’re on a date. Never! Not only will this make the other person think you are still carrying a flame for your former lover, you should be concentrating on the person you asked out in the first place.

Needless to say, he didn’t get a second date.

Another dating faux pas you must avoid is the first-date jitters. I’m not saying you shouldn’t be nervous – that’s natural, and honestly, it’s expected. But if you are so self-conscious that you need to constantly ask your date if you look okay, if your breath smells minty fresh, or whether the shirt you’re wearing makes you look fat… that’s a problem. Obviously, you were asked out for a reason – and I doubt it’s because you were the self-conscious ninny in a corner.

Act confident (even if you aren’t) and you’ll do just fine. And please, whatever you do, if you feel the urge to ask about meeting the parents, how many kids I want, and other way-too-personal questions for a first date do us both a favor… and get the heck out of dodge before those questions pop out of your mouth. The last thing anyone wants is a play-by-play of your future together… on a first date! If you want any hope of a future…bringing up babies and parents and other personal things is not the way to accomplish that.

First dates are complicated enough without adding these ultimate dating blunders to the list. Relax, be yourself and let the night take you where it will. But please – avoid making these dating faux pas!
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If you’ve been out of the dating scene for any length of time, you may feel uncomfortable or uneasy about planning perfect dates. However, there is no need to fear. No matter how long it’s been since you’ve been in the dating arena, planning perfect dates isn’t difficult at all. By following a few key elements, you can be certain that both you and your partner will have a wonderful time.

First, the basic ingredient that every date needs is fun. The best way to ensure that you and your date have a great time is to begin by selecting activities that both of you enjoy. It may seem a bit obvious, but too many times, couples try their hand at new activities. A first date isn’t a great time to try a new activity. If the date is a failure, thanks to trying an activity that wasn’t enjoyable, you may find that your partner isn’t enthusiastic about giving things a second chance. The first date should be played safely and centered on an activity that both you and your date will enjoy.

Did you know that going out to dinner isn’t always a great choice for a date? How about movies? It’s true! Dinner can be wonderful, but on a first date, many women may feel self-conscious. Also, if you do choose to go out to dinner, you will need to choose the restaurant carefully. Make sure it is a safe choice that both you and your date will enjoy, and also choose the dining fare carefully. This means, be selective about the type of food you order. You may be Italian and love spaghetti, but do you really want your date to see you slurping noodles while you dribble sauce on your chin? I didn’t think so. Choose the food carefully, and make sure it is a restaurant that you’ll both enjoy.

Movies are often selected for a first date, but again, this may have serious drawbacks. The first drawback is the fact that when a couple watches a movie, there is no talking or communication taking place. Granted, you may go out for coffee after the movie and discuss the plot, character, or setting but the next day, you may discover you learned more about the lead character then you did your date. Because of this reason, movies are not a good choice for a first date.

On your first date, your focus should be on your partner and your partner alone. Your date should provide the perfect environment for plenty of conversation and it should be a chance to really get to know each other thoroughly. This should always take place in a fun and comfortable environment.

You should also avoid going to each other’s home on a first date, unless you have been friends for a very long time, and feel very comfortable with one another. It may feel very uncomfortable if you are at your date’s house and the date turns sour or you would like to leave. It is best to meet in a public place where you can both enjoy yourselves while participating in mutual activities. By keeping these tips, you can ensure that you will enjoy wonderfully entertaining dates.

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So, you’ve just had your first date and surprisingly, you had a wonderful time. Now, you are faced with a dilemma – when is it proper to call and ask for a second date. You may be surprised to find out that everyone has a different opinion for this very common dating question. The answer is simple really; you should call when you feel like it. If you had a wonderful time, and can’t wait for a second date, there is nothing wrong with calling. However, if you are worried how they’ll respond, you may want to consider how you call.

For example, say you had a great time, the date ended with a good night kiss, and the usual, “Let’s do this again, sometime.” However, you neglected to make any specific plans. In this situation, you may feel uncomfortable as to whether or not the other party is ready for a second date. Unfortunately, you will never know until you make that second call. So, it is imperative that your second call counts, especially if you are going to bypass everyone else’s advice and call the next day, or even sooner.

As a general rule, you wouldn’t want to call on the same night. However, if you simply can’t wait until the morning without finding out how he or she feels about you, a little creativity can go a long way when it comes to the reason behind your phone call. If you want to call on the same night, (provided it isn’t too late) then you can try coming up with some creative excuses for the reason for your call. Maybe there was a question asked during your date that you hadn’t answered or possibly you came up with a better answer. A creative way to start your second call is to call with the purpose of answering that question. Or if you enjoyed a dinner together, maybe you could call and begin the conversation by commenting on your meal or thanking them for their company.

In today’s world, there are so many forms of communication that many of the old etiquette rules simply don’t apply. However, good etiquette is always in style. If your date ended past 11:00 P.M. you should wait until the next day before calling. Also, if you had a wonderful time, but you can tell from your date that they are unresponsive during your phone call, then you should read the signs and not call again. There is nothing worse then trying to make romance when there is no connection.

One of the best ways to determine if a second date is feasible is by making that phone call and asking if they would like to go out again. In fact, it is often the sheer volume of telephone calls that signal the beginning of a serious relationship; so don’t hesitate in making that call. Just remember to be courteous and never call too late in the evening. If you call and get an answering machine leave a message, but don’t continue to call. If you’ve left a message and he or she hasn’t returned your call, then take that as a “not interested” and move on. By using proper etiquette and a little creativity behind the purpose of your call, you can feel confident about making that second call. Either way, you deserve to know if a second date is probable or not.
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We’ve all been there. You’re in a relationship and so is your best friend, and you guys hardly get a chance to see each other anymore. So what can you do to fix it? Plan a double date. When deciding what to do on your double date, try to go somewhere that will be fun for everyone, perhaps it’s a favorite restaurant or club or maybe even a fun night in for a more relaxed atmosphere.

Double dating can be a great way to spend more time with your close friends, but you should also make sure that each of your significant others get along – otherwise, this intended positive experience will turn into something much less fun. Ideally, they would have already met beforehand and enjoy each other’s company.

Double Date Idea #1

Make reservations at a lively place in town. Spend some time sipping drinks and enjoying some great food while in the company of your favorite people. Head over to a martini lounge or a club (if you’re feeling active) afterwards to finish the night off in style.

Double Date Idea #2

With summer time quickly approaching, plan your double date around an outdoor fair. Everyone can enjoy their favorite childhood rides while in the company of their greatest friends. Cotton Candy, Ferris Wheels and friends…sounds like a recipe to a successful night in my book!

Double dates are a great way to reacquaint yourself with people who you haven’t taken much time for recently. While it’s important to get close and comfortable with someone new that you’re dating, it’s also important not to lose the close ties we hold between our friends.

While dating someone, don’t separate yourself from the world, and do your best to maintain previous relationships with friends. In the end, your friends will always be there for you (assuming they’re true friends) – and in most cases, your current boyfriend or girlfriend will not. Don’t make the mistake of neglecting and/or pushing others away – otherwise, you may find yourself awfully lonely down the road. Ultimately, a steady balance between the two will yield much better results in the future. We also like some other useful sites that may be helpful to you: Eros Agency, Dating Tips 4 Women, Right Way Dating, Dating 4 Single Men and U Drive Me Crazy. Another popular thing these days for the younger generation especially are pen friends… or more like e-pen friends. Look to epenpalworld.